Hmmm… great thoughts, and thank you to those who commented on my previous post. I’m still mulling over it. Modesty is so multi-faceted.
I agree with what all of you said. I guess more specifically what I’m thinking about is how do we make the jump from
” but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart,”
“Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”
“short skirts, low cut tops and body hugging outfits are not what we are going to wear.”
I don’t disagree with it! I’m just thinking about it.
How much do we take into account cultural changes/differences? Like the story I heard about the middle eastern women who threw their skirts over their heads when a man walked in the room because in their culture it is more shameful for a man to see your face than your legs (that story could be totally wrong, I don’t know), or how men in Bible times wore robes that we would essentially consider dresses (and horrific for a man to wear) today.
Is there a way to say that X, Y, and Z are immodest forms of clothing? Or is it completely up to one’s conscience? What if a girl says, “You know, God just hasn’t convicted me about showing cleavage and midriff.” Do you tell her to pray about it some more and He’ll show her differently? How far do you take that? What if I say, “You know, God just hasn’t convicted me about wearing a headcovering/only dresses/no makeup/a burka/you name it.” Do you tell me (or think in your head) that if I would just pray about it God would show me differently?
I know there is SO MUCH more to modesty than just clothing, and I know they are all tied to one another, I’m just thinking in a more concrete way right now.
I think that a lot of my wrestling with the practical aspect of this comes from having been essentially a modern-day pharisee before I became a believer, and I projected what I thought was right onto everyone else. So it’s really difficult for me not to want some across-the-board standard for what is and is not modest so that I can enforce it in my own life and on others. I know that’s not right! I’m just thinking outloud mostly. Thanks to anybody who has endured to the end of this rambly post!
Every spring as the temperature rises and girls’ clothes get skimpier and skimpier, my mind returns to the subject of modesty.
I don’t have anything groundbreaking to say about it just yet. I’m still mulling it over in my mind. I will hopefully get my thoughts together for a post about it relatively soon. I mean, I know what MY convictions are, but WHY do I have those convictions? What is our motivation for modesty? What are our guidelines to help us determine what is modest and what is not?
Right now I’m meditating specifically on these two popular modesty verses:
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. -1 Peter 3:1-6
I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. – 1 Timothy 2:8-10
… and I’m thinking about the correlation between what we wear and our hope being in God.
A quick Google search of “biblical modesty” turns up a whole gamut of different opinions, many making definitive statements that this or that apparel is immodest… but I think they are missing the point. There is a heart issue to modesty that goes deeper than just a list of what not to wear, and that is what I am digging for.
What are your thoughts/convictions on modesty?
What in the world?? Is that a thong on a bra? No, my friend. It’s a Winkee!
I found this hilarious website today skimming the interwebs. Really, once you get past giggling over the way it looks, it’s a pretty good concept (although Erin at A Dress A Day thinks it should have a hidden pocket… and I can’t say I diasgree). Basically, it clips to any bra as an alternative to wearing a camisole under low-cut shirts.
I love that on the How It Works page, it says that, among other things, the Winkee makes men more productive. They also remind you that the Winkee does not cure the common cold. These ladies obviously have a sense of humor!
What do you think? Wardrobe-saving solution or funny-looking flop? I think I’m tempted to get (or sew) one for myself!